By Rukhsana Ayyub, ChildFund U.S. Program National Director
I remember the cool morning breeze as I stepped outside on that late August day. It reminded me that fall was around the corner. After the 100-degree days we’d had in Memphis during the summer, it was a welcome relief. I was looking forward to the change of season.
Leaves on the trees were showing early signs of changing colors. Stores were advertising back-to-school sales; those who could afford it were packing the local Wal-Mart, getting ready for the start of another school year. I was pleased that many of our U.S. program’s local partner organizations across Oklahoma, Mississippi and South Dakota were holding back-to-school events and providing backpacks and school supplies for enrolled children whose families could not afford to purchase these necessities.
On that beautiful day, I called my area office in South Dakota, just a routine Monday morning check-in. Billie’s voice was quiet, not her usual excited tone. “What is it?” I asked. A 10-year-old tried to commit suicide in the Pine Ridge reservation over the weekend, she said. Although this child was not enrolled in a ChildFund program, it was a grim reminder that suicide season was approaching, Billie added.
Suicide season. Whoever came up with such a horrific, unnatural name, I wonder. But then I recalled the even more unnatural fact that it’s the large number of teens and children taking their lives that give Native American communities the highest suicide rates in the country. America is known the world over as the land of hope and opportunity. However, on the reservations, we have children who are not excited for the start of a new school year, Christmas or another birthday. They are choosing instead to end their lives.
Community consultations conducted by ChildFund on the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation revealed high incidences of alcohol and other substance abuse, depression and feelings of hopelessness in households, along with a disconnection from cultural values and beliefs.
To counter these negative factors, ChildFund supports programs that promote children’s social skills and emotional health. We also encourage families and other community members to protect and nurture their children by preserving traditional Lakota values. After all, this is a culture that considers children sacred and gives them beautiful names like Little Big Thunder, Little Arrow and Blue Robin, connecting them to nature.
Our programs in Lakota communities include information on suicide prevention and support resources for both parents and children. However, each new suicide or attempt is a reminder of the enormity of the problem and the work that still lies ahead.
ChildFund seeks to empower children and bring families closer together. On that August day – and every day – I voice my wish for every Lakota mother: Hold on tight to your child. To the children and youth, I say: Give life a chance; embrace the new school year waiting for you, Thanksgiving, the first snow of the winter.
And to my colleagues hurt by witnessing this trauma, and the responsibility it carries: Don’t give up hope. Seasons change, and even this dreaded season will pass. Our work for these children continues.
In the U.S. Northern Plains, ChildFund is listening to Native American children and youth and helping them arrive at solutions to bring about change in their communities.
In a recent interview with KQFR 89.9 FM in Shenandoah, Iowa, Deb Douglas, ChildFund’s Northern Plains area manager, ticked off the harsh realities that Lakota youth face: suicide, alcoholism, childhood obesity, diabetes and poverty.
“Suicide is the greatest destruction,” according to Deb, whose work with ChildFund takes her to the Cheyenne River, Rosebud and Pine Ridge reservations in South Dakota.
Also tough to witness is “children not believing they can make a difference — and they can,” Deb told KQFR’s Public Affairs Director Jenny Goodell.
ChildFund programs focus on building leaders through after-school programming that includes homework help, nutrition education and hands-on activities like gardening and quilting. In addition, ChildFund seeks to improve community resources and conducts focus groups to identify issues in need of attention. “We ask tough questions to develop good communication between youth and parents,” she said.
For Deb, job satisfaction is “watching children develop into positive role models for their community.”
When children and youth reconnect with their family and community, they often find answers to many of the dilemmas they face, Deb told KQFR. “We listen to the children. We listen to their needs and their wants.” Sometimes just speaking and being heard enables youth to make decisions in their own lives, she noted.
Here’s Deb’s full interview with KQFR. Deb Douglas Interview_KQFR